Here's What Happens When you Masturbate TOO MUCH

WE'RE always told to learn how our bodies work so we can experience full sexual satisfaction. Self-pleasure – masturbation – ranks high in this advice.

When getting to know yourself there’s no blushing to hold you back. Or beating around the bush (so to speak!) about asking a partner to do a certain move.

Women can come unstuck, though, even with the freedom of sex-perimenting on their own.

Some feel guilty about enjoying sexual release, somehow thinking ‘sex is bad’. Others wonder if their style of pleasure is ‘weird’ or kinky.

And another reason is when a woman (or man) discovers one single ‘idiosyncratic’ (unique to themselves) way to reach orgasm and sticks with it. This becomes the only way they climax.

Idiosyncratic Masturbatory Style (IMS) can seem like a good thing, at least you know you’ll climax. But it can be hard to mimic the exact friction and pressure you give yourself, with a partner.

Or they simply rush to their end goal, climaxing quickly, so romping through the four stages of orgasm – the arousal stage, the plateau stage, the actual orgasm stage, and finally the resolution stage of post-orgasmic bliss.

There are lots of bodily and mood changes occurring in these stages.

In the arousal stage, you experience lots of exciting little changes with heart rate quickening, nipples becoming erect, lubrication starts, blood flows to your clitoris and vagina.

You feel these changes and they feel good!

In the plateau stage, these changes increase as does your breathing, heart rate, and production of feel-good hormones like oxytocin.

Muscles tighten and your clitoris prepares for orgasmic release by drawing itself up under the protective clitoral hood to avoid over-stimulation.

At the orgasm stage, bodily muscles contract involuntarily, breathing and heart rate peak, and there’s forceful release of sexual tension with contractions through the vagina and uterus.

The resolution phase includes a return of your body to a ‘normal’ state with a sense of well-being and release.

However the downside – of getting stuck in ‘one-way-to-climax’ - can be challenging to overcome.

Rushing through the arousal and plateau stages mean you miss trying new sensations.

Especially if you’ve come to rely on a sex toy to climax. Sex-toy-joy is fantastic but they can be over-used.

Many sexology researchers recommend a limit of 20 minutes stimulation on any given pleasure-zone. Otherwise, you risk becoming desensitised.

Ultimately discovering what works for you is great. But don’t shut down to using the confidence that gives you, to try other types of stimulation. Including having fun with toys but not allowing them to dominate all your bedroom action.